Oft times a person finds themself in conversation as the focus shifts from listening to answering. Usually when in conversation with another we feel the need to be heard and formulate a response before the other has finished what they are saying. IS this being mindful in our listening? How can we verify what is heard if a response is being formed before the conversation is complete and confirming with the other what we think we heard? To overcome this type of passive listening a person should practice active listening. Active listening involves three components. First, listen to what the other person is saying by giving them our full attention. Second, wait until the other person has finished speaking and summarize what you believe you heard them say. Third, wait for clarification of your summation before rendering a response, if needed. Giving another person our full attention lets them know we care about them and what they have to say is important. Listening intently, without interruption is another way of letting the other person know they are important and what they say matters. By verifying what we believe was said we can remove assumptions that may not be true or at least not the perspective the other person was trying to portray. Being mindful in listening allows for attention, listening with intent, and better communication skills.
